I am a firm believer in changing the exterior to change the interior. If you think about it, it's asking an awful lot of yourself to break a habit, get out of a rut, or change a routine while everything else stays the same.
Read moreCHEWY SPELT OATMEAL RAISIN COOKIES
A good novel will always be waiting. Listening to "Latch" by Disclosure will always make you want to dance. And these particular oatmeal cookies will always come out chewy and just a bit sweet.
Read moreRAW KEY LIME PIE
I developed a serious key lime pie habit in college. I was living on Block Island for the summer, and working as a waitress in the evenings. After a long, exhausting shift in the restaurant, sweaty and tired from running in and out of a hot kitchen, I would take the longer route home so I could pass a tiny hole-in-the-wall Thai restaurant. Perched above the harbor, the restaurant is run by a Maine native with a taste for excellent flat noodles, pad Thai, and oddly enough, key lime pie (a man after my own heart!). I'd order noodles and a huge slice of pie to go and cap off my meal with a handful of spicy, chewy ginger candies from a bowl on the hostess stand.
Read moreA MENTAL TRICK
I met my sister down in the bustling center of Chelsea Market. We walked around, and shopped, and picked things up and put them down. We discussed whether felt hats are a little bit too ridiculous for 28 year olds, and whether a gold or a silver candle would make a better birthday present. We asked each other whether this shirt was prettier than that one, and whether we'd tasted the individual pizzas at Amy's Bread ("me too!"), and determined that one of us doesn't like hazelnuts, despite how many nights we ate entire jars of Nutella together (out of the jar with a spoon) on our couch.
We don't live together anymore, but we pretty much always live in each others heads. We can go three months without seeing each other, and I can still tell you which bread she will pick for a snack, and which birthday card makes her laugh the most in the bookstore.
Just like the best people in our lives, we still have new, separate things to share, despite how similar we are. This time, we talked about changing, and how hard it can be. I told her something I've been working on lately. Let's call it "the and/but test", or, "how to stay calm", or even, "just do what you want". The idea is that maybe a lot of the problems in our lives can be solved by a shift in thinking. Think of problems you have -- often they take the form of "I want to do one thing, but I can't" or "I keep doing this thing, but I should be doing this other thing".
Change "but" with "and", and suddenly your problem becomes a question. "I want to take a trip, and I have to work." Okay, figure out how to make both happen, instead of assuming you have to choose between them.
Like anything, this isn't a universal fix or truth, but it helps immensely to calm yourself and worry less. Now I don't spend my days wishing I could change, or act differently. I just add instead of subtract. I keep doing what I've been doing, but I also layer in something new.
BANANA BREAD FLAX GRANOLA
I've been making granola for a long time now, ever since I realized that the exact combination I wanted didn't exist in a store-bought bag. Granola is a perfect example of all those great things about home cooking: no preservatives, much more economical, customizable to just what you love, and on and on.
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